If your boyfriend used to text you back right away, but now he takes hours or days to respond, it’s a sign that he is losing interest in the relationship.
He may also start canceling or refusing to make plans for the future. This is another big sign that he’s lost interest.
1. He’s not checking up on you
If he used to check up on you regularly or text or call just to see how your day was, but now you never hear from him, that’s a sign that he’s lost interest. It could be something as simple as him being busy or not feeling well, but if this is becoming the norm, it’s worth considering where things are heading.
When you talk on the phone, he may break eye contact and move his body away from yours. This is a sign that he’s losing interest in the conversation and doesn’t want to be near you.
He may also stop complimenting you or seem to forget your birthday, which can be a sign that he’s no longer interested in you. In addition, he may not mention your interests or ask about your plans for the future anymore.
In the beginning of the relationship, he was probably eager to share details about his work and school life with you. Now, when you ask about them, he’s more likely to say they’re fine without any other details.
You may notice that he’s always looking at his phone, doesn’t look you in the eye when you speak to him, or makes rude or harsh comments to you. This is a clear sign that he doesn’t appreciate or respect you and should be avoided at all costs. This kind of behavior is unacceptable in a relationship, and you should find another man who treats you well and cares about you.
2. He’s not talking to you
If he’s not texting you or if he isn’t talking to you on the phone very often, this could be a sign that he is losing interest in your relationship. He might be busy with work or friends, but if he is consistently not talking to you at all then this can become a problem.
Another thing to keep an eye out for is if he starts to shorten your conversations on the phone. If you used to talk for hours at a time and now he only talks to you for ten minutes at a time, this is a clear sign that he is starting to lose interest.
You might also notice that he doesn’t talk about important topics with you anymore or he starts to avoid certain subjects altogether. For instance, if he used to ask about your favorite movies but now you never hear anything from him about them then this could be a sign that he doesn’t care about you anymore.
He may also start to argue with you more or he might stop making jokes with you. Whether he doesn’t make you laugh anymore or starts to argue with you over the most trivial things, this can be a bad sign that he’s slowly losing interest.
3. He’s not texting you
When a guy suddenly stops calling or texting you or does it very rarely, it can be hard to tell why. He may have a valid reason like he is busy or has things going on at home, but it could also be an indication that he’s losing interest in the relationship.
He might not respond to your texts at all or he will take hours to get back to you. This can be frustrating, especially if you used to talk and text all the time. He may also stop making plans with you, or he’ll make plans and then cancel them. It’s important to notice these changes and be aware that they are occurring.
Another sign that he’s losing interest is if he starts acting rude or unkind to you. He may call you names or say unkind things about you and your appearance. This type of behavior is not okay, no matter how much you love someone.
It’s also a red flag when he starts flirting with other people or even talking about his ex-girlfriend. He should never be doing this in a committed relationship. It’s also a bad sign when he doesn’t make plans for the future with you or mention anything about him being interested in you professionally or personally. This can mean that he is moving on and leaving you behind. You deserve to have a man who is committed to you and your relationship.
4. He’s not calling you
If he used to call you constantly, but now it’s rare for him to text or pick up the phone, that’s a bad sign. It’s normal if there’s a little lag when it comes to communication in relationships, but if this goes on for a while, it could be a big red flag that he doesn’t want to communicate with you anymore.
If you ask him to do something and he gives you a long list of excuses, that’s another huge red flag. He may say he has to work late, he needs to run errands, he’s sick, or some other lame reason why he can’t hang out with you. If he was once all about you, now he’s just making up excuses to avoid spending time with you.
If he doesn’t talk about your future together or he gets very defensive when you try to bring it up, this is also a good indication that he’s losing interest. This is a big change from when you were discussing your dreams, your plans for the future, and working toward them together. He may even be secretive about it or he will talk to his friends but not to you. He may even be telling them things about you that are unkind and untrue. It’s important to notice these changes and take note of them. You deserve someone who’s willing to put in the effort and care for you.
5. He’s not making plans with you
It’s a red flag if he is reluctant to put a label on the relationship, introduce you to his friends and family, or make future plans together. If he’s not putting any effort into the relationship, it could be because he feels that it’s moving too fast or he is losing interest in you.
Another sign he’s losing interest is when he stops asking you about your day, how your weekend went or where you want to go for a romantic getaway. This is a clear indication that he no longer cares about you and doesn’t see a future with you.
When he does make plans, they seem to revolve around sex or getting together with friends. If he’s not making any plans that don’t include sex, it’s likely because he no longer finds you romantic or that he isn’t interested in the relationship at all.
If he’s constantly getting annoyed with you, it’s a clear sign that he’s not as interested in you as he used to be. He may even begin to say unkind things about you and treat you poorly, which is a huge red flag. This shows that he is not someone you want to be around and it’s time to end the relationship. It’s better to be honest with yourself and not waste your time on someone who doesn’t appreciate you or respect you.
6. He’s not spending time with you
It’s a sign of a true change when he doesn’t even want to spend time with you anymore. He’ll talk about work, his friends or family, but the things you have in common like hobbies and passions aren’t a focus anymore. He may say he’s busy or that he needs to run errands, but that’s usually just an excuse to avoid you.
He used to bring flowers or hold your hand or light candles for you in the evening, but now it seems like he just does the minimum. It’s one thing if he isn’t the most romantic person, but when he stops doing these simple things it is a sign that he is losing interest.
If he only talks to you about having sex or you never see him without a sex partner, that is another clear sign of loss of interest. It’s possible that he’s still interested in you as a friend or as his lover, but the sex part isn’t there anymore.
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